Updated: Nov 14, 2019
I get really excited to write on the topic of enhancing the ordinary to become something extraordinary and magical because it's a power that all people are capable of, but that most aren't aware of. Our mindset is literally everything, and how we choose to see ourselves, others and our everyday existence here says a lot about who we are as people.
One of my all time favorite quotes by self-help author and motivational speaker, Wayne Dyer, is: "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
So simple, right? Yes, in theory, it actually is very simple, but sometimes when it's applied to everyday life, we forget the hidden power that lies within that statement. We become so used to going about our days thinking the same thoughts, repeating rote scripts, acting out habituated ways of being, that we don't realize we are the ones creating the very thing we try to avoid as much as possible: an ordinary, routine and humdrum life.
The reason that time feels like its flying and that life becomes quotidian is because we allow ourselves to slip into a script-like life where we respond to situations in the same manner, over and over and over again.
If you really want to refresh your life, begin to take notice of your hourly thoughts, the triggers that set you off into action, how you talk to people, the phrases and comments you say on a regular basis, the way you feel when you get to work, and how you manage your free time. There's a lot to be said for what space you choose to live your life from.
Are you someone who's always rushed?
Do you have patience for those around you?
Are you constantly getting annoyed at the same things?
Do you talk to yourself the way you talk to others?
Do you talk to others the way you talk to yourself?
Do you let other people's actions or words affect your mood?
Are you always judging yourself or those around you?
Do you get tired of hearing yourself think and say the same things?
Are you always struggling to get through the day/week until you're free?
The path to living a passionate, purposeful and meaningful life is woven throughout the small, daily actions that we often don't take notice of. We all want the best possible life for ourselves and most of the time when we imagine our ideal existence, we're looking somewhere toward an imagined future where our problems cease to exist and where everything is just as we want it to be. We see wealth, freedom, love, happiness, and adventure and we believe that with hard work and determination, we will one day get to that place of unadulterated bliss.
The truth though? You can achieve a certain level of bliss (even unadulterated bliss) right now, if you choose to stop placing your happiness months or years ahead of you, by honing in on the smaller things that make your life fascinating, right now.
The way to find fascination in what you deem to be ordinary? Do the opposite of your natural instincts in situations where you feel like life has become mundane.
Always arguing with your partner? Try a different mindset or approach to letting things go; communicate yourself more clearly; think of all the reasons you fell in love with this person; take more time for yourself.
Do you get aggravated with coworkers or your boss? How about instead of focusing on all that you don't like within a certain person, you challenge yourself for a week (or more) to only search for the good, for the light, for the redeeming qualities?
Are you speeding on your way to work and getting frustrated with other drivers? (I admit, at times, this is me!) Challenge yourself to not use your phone during your drive, to listen to something you don't normally put on the radio, to let other drivers get in front of you, to take in your surroundings and spot new things you've never noticed before on your daily route.
Struggle getting up in the morning and making time for yourself before work? Tell yourself that you are going to commit to yourself just as much as you commit to working for someone else and being on time for them. Make a promise that you will no longer put yourself and your well-being second to anything or anyone. Mornings are where you will consciously set the tone for the rest of your day by doing things that make you feel good.
Tired of coming home exhausted at the end of the day and watching TV or going on your phone or computer for hours? Toward the end of your day, drink a full glass of water and say the mantra to yourself or aloud, I am alive, I am awake, I am well. Say it and feel it. Tell yourself that you will do one thing different that night that you haven't done in awhile or ever before. Read a book. Call a friend. Go for a walk. Gaze at the stars. Write in a journal. Go on a coffee date. Be by yourself. Be with someone else. Whatever it is, try something new.
This week I challenge you to take notice of the normal, accustomed ways you go about your day and rewire your brain to react to negative triggers in the opposite way you usually would.
When someone says something that you know usually bothers you, reach for a higher thought, respond with something positive and unexpected. If you get to your desk and anxiety settles in, remember that you can choose how to feel throughout your day. When you're on your way home and can't wait to eat dinner and sit in front of the TV, remember that this is your life, dear one. This moment, this very second, is your life.
What space will you choose to live from?
How will you make your ordinary world something extraordinary?
When will you choose happiness now?
When will you let yourself live, now?
The choice is always yours, my love.